Finding Good References When You Can't Ask Your Boss
By Dana Mattioli
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If you have been fired or quit a job on shaky terms, the prospect of securing positive references can seem daunting. Employed job hunters face a similar predicament when they need someone to vouch for them but want to keep their search hidden from their immediate boss. Whatever the circumstances of their job hunt, professionals with a track record of success needn't be at a loss for supporters. Below are some tips for winning rave reviews when the usual sources aren't available.7 u3 H, \$ N1 Z. x
' w) s; L; w% C1 GIdeally, you should choose a strategy and put it into action at the time of your dismissal, before you even exit the building. If you haven't, review your options and then line up your references before you begin your job search. Just remember to contact your potential supporters before offering them as references, so they aren't caught off-guard when an employer calls.
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+ h! h3 f5 I- Z1 g. `! n, y% ^1. Settle on a story.
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' Z; x& H* r1 b: p9 d5 x2 t# SDon't assume that because you were fired, you can't get a good reference from your boss. It isn't unusual for managers to put in a good word for employees whom they have dismissed, says Richard Bayer, chief operations officer in New York for the Five O'Clock Club, a national outplacement organization. & O% B4 q, X( \5 i* j3 z. T
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2 m' z( o0 x t, @3 r% D: N) vMr. Bayer says his clients have been able to settle the details of their termination to their satisfaction and secure a positive reference from bosses who have fired them. Doing so allows both the employee and the employer to move on, he says. He suggests having a friend call under the guise of an employer to ensure that your former boss sticks to the agreed upon story.
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When asking an ex-boss for a reference, pitch your assets. "Remind the employer of what you have accomplished, because they may just be thinking of the recent event that you were fired over and lose focus of the good qualities," says Linda Matias, president of CareerStrides, a career and outplacement- consulting firm in Melville, N.Y.
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2. Ask a previous boss to be a reference.
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When Leslie Macabeo, 33, of Westminster, Calif., resigned from her job as dean of academics at a Huntington Beach, Calif., college in April after severe criticism from her supervisors, she didn't feel comfortable asking them to be references. 6 f7 {0 T U& o& r
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As an alternative, she used the former president of the college as a reference, says Ms. Macabeo, who had been with the college for two years. She secured a new job within a week of the dismissal and is now director of development at the Creative Collection, an after-school arts program in Aliso Viejo, Calif.
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* X1 a' S& x2 Z+ N" \1 G* H7 oIf you haven't kept in touch with former managers, reopen the lines of communication. Update them on your situation and then ask for a reference.